💛 Rediscover your Authentic Self (UNLOCK your personality while breaking out of old personalities: People-Pleaser, Perfectionist, Avoidant, Workaholic, etc.)
💛 Rewire your brain to think calmly and clearly with less overthinking, overanalyzing, overwhelm, and anxiety
💛 Quiet your Negative Inner Critic
💛 Heal Childhood Wounds through Inner Child Healing and Reparenting
💛 Cultivate emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, resilience, and self-compassion
💛 Establish boundaries effectively in a Firm, Assertive, Respectful yet Gentle, Kind, and Loving Way
💛 Confidently express your true feelings and thoughts in a healthy way
💛 Create and nurture fulfilling personal and professional relationships
Chances are you were raised by parents who tried their best, but they were pretty emotionally immature and might've caused emotional harm. Chances are you're much more mature then they are, but there's always room for emotional growth! Take a fun, interactive & educational quiz. *version 3.0 out now - September 2024*
Wondering "am I codependent with my partner?!?!?" Discover the level of codependency revealing common unhealthy patterns in romantic relationships through a fun & interactive quiz.
Do You Rely Too Much on Your Parents? Wondering are you codependent? Discover the level of codependency revealing common unhealthy patterns parental relationships through a fun & interactive quiz.
is a first-generation Chinese-Canadian, an emotional intelligence, relationship communication, and healing coach specializing in helping adult children raised by emotionally immature parents. With a unique background that includes graduating medical school and a personal journey of prioritizing mental health and self-discovery, Kai offers a compassionate yet practical approach to coaching. He helps clients cultivate emotional intelligence, build healthy relationships, and navigate the complexities of attachment styles, boundary-setting, and inner child healing.
His journey from medicine to coaching was born out of a deep desire to support others in finding freedom from their past and breaking intergenerational patterns of emotional immaturity. Kai’s approach is informed by his understanding of Western psychology and Eastern philosophies, including Tibetan Buddhism, which allows him to bring a balanced and holistic perspective to each client’s growth process. He guides clients toward a deeper understanding of themselves, helping them transform feelings of frustration, resentment, and confusion into clarity, resilience, and empowerment.
Kai's influence and impact quickly grew through his Instagram and TikTok communities of over half-a-million people where he offers then daily educational content and interactive & engaging IG/TikTok LIVES.
Kai works with diverse clients, ranging from busy professionals in their late 20s and 30s—such as academics, doctors, lawyers, and tech industry leaders—to individuals in their 50s who are navigating challenging family dynamics with elderly parents. Whether through one-on-one coaching, workshops, or online courses, he is dedicated to helping his clients become confident and skilled in setting boundaries and communicating authentically. His clients often describe his coaching style as empathetic, insightful, and life-changing, finding themselves more capable of handling emotional challenges with grace.
With a warm and encouraging presence, Kai is committed to creating a safe space for emotional exploration. His mission is to empower his students to heal themselves, reconnect with their true selves, build healthier relationships, and step into a future where they can thrive emotionally and live more authentically. Outside of coaching, Kai is passionate about storytelling, constantly exploring creative ways to turn personal struggles into transformative narratives.
He recently became a published author of his ground-breaking workbook, "Emotionally Immature Parents: A Recovery Workbook for Adult Children - Unpack Harmful Dynamics from Your Childhood, Empower Yourself as an Adult, and Set Boundaries for the Future" and has collaborated with other industry leaders below.
Welcome to "The Boundaries to Freedom Show", the podcast that guides you through the healing landscapes of your inner child to the empowered peaks of emotional adulthood. Each episode is a step forward in your quest of healing, emotional growth, and reclaiming your authentic self. Join us as we explore how to set unshakeable boundaries, master the art of emotional self-care, and transform your relationships from the ground up.
3 Pieces of Advice for Dealing With Emotionally Immature Parents
Are you ready to transform your relationship dance with emotionally immature parents? Discover 3 relationship-changing practical pieces of advice from Kai. Listen To More
From Being C.A.T.T.Y. P.O.O.R. to a Life of F.R.E.E.D.O.M.
Understand your current self-limiting beliefs and identities of being C.A.T.T.Y. P.O.O.R. an acronym that includes codependency, anxious/avoidant, yoyo-out-of-control emotions, people-pleasing, and more Listen To More
Emotional Boundaries - Where Your Feelings End and Theirs Begin
We all need healthy boundaries. Discover what are exactly emotional boundaries, why you need them, and how to begin setting them.
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"My 10-year old daughter meditates with me sometimes now too. She even notices when mom's emotions are getting out of hand and she reminds me to take a pause and practice one of your short guided meditations."
Sarah, 39 years old
"I have been putting boundaries and better communication in practice more lately and its been such a great relief. So much better than quietly going along with things even if they are small or were requested with good intent."
Mark, 28 years old
"The past 4 months working with Kai has been truly inspirational. We have touched on so many topics such as my career, relationships, and fears. Although they were difficult topics to face and talk about, Kai's kindness, thoughtfulness, and support provided me with the strength to work hard on what I wanted to achieve/work on.
He was easy to get in touch with when I needed more support and he always reached out to me to see how I was doing every week. His wealth of knowledge opened up my mind and the resources he shared with me were illuminating. I really appreciated his wholesome support throughout the sessions and highly recommend everyone to work with Kai if you're looking for a caring and insightful coach."
Naomi, 31 years old
"I did something. I wrote a letter (not aggressive or angry) to one of my sisters who was trying to make me feel guilty for not calling my Dad as often as she thinks I should, and trying to put guilt onto me for the lack of calls. I will admit, I'm happy and content that I did it, but the old me is still in here and it keeps whispering to me...old me is scared that I pressed 'send'. It's okay. I did something that would be considered weird outside the walls of this community: I wrapped my arms around me and told old me that it's okay, it had to be done. That I didn't do anything wrong, things have to change."
Rosaline, 62 years old
"The lovingkindness with boundary affirmation meditation is so good!! I could do it for 30 minutes, so needed. I've neglected most of these meditations and now I realized that's been a HUGE mistake. Just wanted to share that and thank you again for this amazing journey and opportunity to transition to my higher self."
Michelle, 54 years old
"The biggest benefit that I got out of this coaching program is changing my overall thought patterns and catching myself being negative. Learned that I have the power to take and do whatever I want/need to do—and have all the right to walk away when needed. Really listening to my True Self better than I ever have before. I feel so powerful!!
Caitlyn, 38 years old
"So some obstacles I had before joining the program were that I definitely had my doubts to even reach out. I think there was a lot of fears behind it. I saw Kai on TikTok and I felt like there was this celebrity effect that made him feel out of reach. It just seemed like it wasn't something for a person like me. I found myself thinking, 'do I really need this?' and 'do I deserve this?' because asking for help was such a foreign concept to me. At the end of the day, I'm so happy and glad that I reached out because even before our first [clarity] call, after I scheduled it, I got the confirmation email right away. I was like, 'wow! it's this easy!?'. It felt crazy to me that these resources and someone like Coach Kai is so readily available. It was after that first clarity call, well midway through the call, I knew I wanted to do this. This is something that I deserve for myself. That was it. That was when I decided to join."
—Leslie
